I’m Kristen Carter, a certified coach, cancer survivor, and author.
I encourage and empower people with insight about themselves, plus tools and practices that help them feel positive and capable. In the end, they know what matters most to them and how to get it.
They learn how to be fearless, authentic, and real.
If you’ve been hit by one of life’s tidal waves and need help getting back on your feet get in touch with me here.
I’ve had several disorienting, death-defying experiences in my life.
I’ve had several disorienting, death-defying experiences in my life: being pulled out to sea in an undertow, getting electrocuted almost to death, being in a roll-over car accident. But the biggest of them all was being diagnosed with stage four breast cancer three years ago.
After the first three incidents, life went back to normal pretty quickly, even though I was shaken up. This time, the experience has been harder–impossible, really–to shake off. It’s a real doozy; my condition is considered treatable, and thankfully I’m doing beautifully, but incurable.
Now, ‘normal’ is more vulnerable and far more precious. I see with clearer eyes, love with a fuller heart, appreciate what I have more deeply. I dream not necessarily of bold new horizons but of getting to experience the ones I already know as deeply and long as I can. Life holds more fear, but also joy I never knew.
I deal with less crap. I have whittled lots of unnecessary and unfulfilling stuff, worries and people out of my life.
I know what my important buckets are and pour a little something into them regularly; I aim for daily. I keep my eyes on my real prizes.
I am incredibly grateful for simply pleasures, and there are so many every day.
I’m also grateful that I had ten years of training and experience as a life and positive psychology coach when the cancer tidal wave knocked me off my feet. I have calming strategies that help me through the most anxious moments, tried-and-true practices for focusing on the most important things, a positive outlook, solid relationships, and the courage to advocate for myself (like the time I switched oncologists).
I wouldn’t wish this kind of life-altering event on anyone. But they happen. Our challenge is to meet them with as much grace and courage as possible. It also helps to keep a sense of humor, take some things lightly, and have a “Surf’s-up! Let’s ride this wave” attitude. Tidal wave, shmidal wave.
My daughter and I walking on the beach. This photo contains three of my favorite things: family, nature and chill time. Fills my bucket every time.
(Kierbooms, South Africa, c. 2008)
About my logo
The double hearts logo is one of the most meaningful images in my life, because my daughter first drew it as a suggestion for a tattoo the two of us could get to commemorate our relationship (she’s the little heart, I’m the big one).
Getting through her sometimes-difficult teens with our love intact is one of the most important accomplishments of my life.
Nothing on earth matters more to me than the love of my family, and I’m proud to display it through this image on my website and on my right wrist, where I see it all day every day.
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