Do you find yourself lacking the confidence to make changes in your life? Does stepping outside your comfort zone make you anxious? Is poor self-esteem or insecurity holding you back from going after personal or professional dreams?
If so, I’m sorry for your pain and know how it feels. I’ve been insecure myself, starting in childhood and carrying right through a corporate career where I was a perfectionist, as a way to try to prevent disappointing anyone. And let me tell you: nothing feels better than believing in myself, which I now do without a doubt. Well, sometimes I have doubts, but I know what to do about it! And I’d be delighted to help you believe in yourself, too.
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The realities low self-confidence
Reasons to be hopeful
The realities of low self-confidence
No matter what it was that shook your confidence, you may be feeling:
- Hopeless, pessimistic, fatalistic
Reasons to be Hopeful
The fields of positive psychology and life coaching offer many proven strategies that work wonders on your sense of confidence and personal potential.
Positive psychology is a scientific approach to studying human thoughts, feelings and behavior, with a focus on strengths instead of weaknesses. When you take a scientific strengths assessment, you can’t dismiss the results. I felt the impact of this myself ten years ago and have seen it light up hundreds of people in my coaching practice since then, from school children right up to the CEO of an international corporation. Your strengths are a FACT, not an opinion, and the whole field of positive psychology is based on using strengths in ways that build happiness, overall well-being and life satisfaction, gratitude, achievement and even better relationships.
Life coaching is full of tools that help people feel better about themselves and to live more confidently.
What I offer
I offer free information and resources on this site as well as one-on-one coaching. I’ve outlined a four-session coaching program below to show you exactly what you’d learn and what you’d receive working with me.
A Coaching Program Designed Just For You
Pre-coaching Discovery SessionBefore you commit your time or money, we’d talk for half an hour to answer your questions and see if this feels like a good solution for you. You can schedule that right now if you like.
We’ll start by getting super clear on your current situation and your goals, whether they’re personal, professional, or relationship-oriented. What are the messages you’re getting from your ‘inner critic,’ and how are they disrupting your life and your plans?
You’ll begin to discover your personal “strengths DNA,” drawn from a strengths assessment you’ll take through me (the VIA Assessment of Character Strengths), results of other strengths or personality assessments you’ve taken previously, and your awareness of the things that helped you be successful in the past. Learn how to begin applying your strengths to the parts of your life you’re not satisfied with.
Building resilience and self-compassion, continuing to counter negative self-talk that’s holding you back, beginning to build a life that’s based on your strengths, setting positive goals and taking daily action toward them.
Putting it all together into your personal strengths-based life and career plan.
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If you love an inspiring song as much as I do, check out the ones I've collected below. I'll keep adding to this playlist as I find new music that celebrates who we are at our best. If you know of a song that belongs here, let me know! "Shake It Off" by Taylor Swift...
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