Four Ways to Use Your Strengths Every Day

by | Jan 13, 2014 | Building Self Confidence | 0 comments

“It’s true, I really can see a pattern in the strengths I use!”

PRINT (175kb)

Download the What Went Well journal here.

My daughter Sarah, 15, had been keeping the What Went Well journal for three days and I’d asked her what she thought of it. “Hurray!” was my reply, for two reasons: the journal was working, but even more important, my teenager was seeing how her strengths help contribute to the good things that happen in her life.

I do a lot of work with kids of all ages, so I test all my new tools on my own children. The What Went Well journal is also being used with the whole senior class at Masibambane College in South Africa this week!

If you’ve been using the journal, which I gave away in last week’s post and which you can download here, I hope you’re having similarly good results.

What to do next

Once you know your strengths, you can begin building them and using them more deliberately. For most people, this leads to:

  • Greater “subjective wellbeing” (aka happiness)
  • A greater connection with whatever they do, whether it’s work, school, hobbies or engaging with other people
  • More positive relationships
  • Greater meaning in their lives
  • More success/achievement, again across domains like work and school

Here are four ways you can build your strengths every day:

  1. Try using one of your top strengths in a new way
  2. Use a strength in a new setting. Are you great at being a team player at work, but tend to be a leader at home? Try letting someone else choose the next restaurant or explore ideas for a weekend outing.
  3. Choose hobbies that play to your strengths. If you and your partner have different strengths, find activities where your strengths overlap. If you like art and he’s the social type, you mind enjoy a gallery opening or going with friends to a movie about one of your favorite painters.
  4. Use your strengths to deal with a challenge. Hate rush-hour traffic? If gratitude is one of your strengths, be thankful you have a job to go to and a car to drive. If you love learning, listen to an audiobook.

What are your strengths? What ways can you think of to use them in new ways? How can I help?



Do you need kind, compassionate support to bounce back from a negative experience? If so, then get in touch with me now, and let’s make the most of your precious time, energy and love. 


Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Kristen Carter

Kristen Carter, Certified coach, author, and breast cancer survivor. More

Self-Love Comes First

Self-Love Comes First

Valentine’s Day can be a wonderful holiday if you’re in a relationship with someone you care for (and who cares for you). But whether you’re in such a partnership or not, there is one person you should love above all others: yourself. “What??” you might ask. “What...

Dealing With Survivor’s Guilt

Dealing With Survivor’s Guilt

Many of us with breast cancer become close friends with others that we meet in support groups, online forums, and through friends. Sadly, some of them pass away, leaving us with grief and, sometimes, survivor’s guilt. Survivor’s guilt is real and we all experience it...

Living Without Regrets

Living Without Regrets

“I wish I’d lived a life true to myself rather than the one others expected of me.” That was the number-one regret expressed by dying people cared for by Australian palliative nurse Bronnie Ware, who worked with hospice patients for almost ten years and who wrote...

Dealing With Breast Cancer-related Weight Gain

Dealing With Breast Cancer-related Weight Gain

As if having breast cancer isn’t bad enough, many women find that they put on unwanted pounds due to the specific treatment they’re on and/or feeling too tired to exercise the way they used to. I am not a metabolism expert but did some research and found that the...

Taming “Scanxiety”

Taming “Scanxiety”

In the same way we can imagine beautiful futures like a cure for cancer and watching our grandchildren thrive, we can imagine the most awful futures: disease progression, painful treatment, devastating side effects, dying. Imagination is a uniquely human capacity,...

Get through this with self-love, a clear focus on what matters most to you, and help from someone who's been there.

Explore what kind, compassionate support can feel like with a no-obligation conversation with me by phone or by Zoom.