Have you ever wished you could…


   Say what you were REALLY THINKING, without jeopardizing an important relationship?

   STAND UP to a bully, but weren’t sure what to say?

   Talk to a certain person WITHOUT GETTING NERVOUS OR EMOTIONAL? 

If so, I’ve written a book
just for you!

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Change your world

Your voice and your feelings matter.

Learn how to get them out of your head and into the world with


ISPEAQ book cover, 3-D

Available now!

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Speaking up for ourselves can be so hard

Most of us have never learned how, as most of our parents never learned how either, and schools don’t really teach us how to be confident communicators.

You deserve to say what you think and feel.


In ISPEAQ, I teach you how with a clear step-by-step process that will help you
work through any conversation.
If you need a starting point, I offer sample scripts related to having difficult conversations
with everyone from your politically opinionated relative
to a ho-hum lover to your critical boss.


You will feel prepared and empowered to speak up for yourself like never before.

Work with me on your difficult conversation

Try the worksheet

Here is a downloadable worksheet you can use to prepare for any difficult conversation


Where the book comes from

I created ISPEAQ more than ten years ago to help my clients who struggled to speak up calmly and effectively at home, work, and school. It meant a lot to me because I had also grown up not knowing how. It draws on:


• Professional mediation techniques — the kind used to bridge differences between, for instance, warring countries.

• Non-violent Communications (also called Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication) developed by the great Marshall Rosenberg.

• The listening techniques of Nancy Kline, author of Time to Think

• My training/certifications in positive psychology, the Enneagram, Family Coaching and Life Coaching

• More than 20 years in the corporate world as an employee and as a manger. Some businesses encourage open communications, but many do not.

Work with me on your difficult conversation

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  1. Sara Jo Fischer

    I am so thrilled for you . I love the concept, content and your graphics. You are brilliant.

    • Kristen

      Thank you so much, Sara Jo! ❤️

  2. Terry

    Kristen, I am excited to learn from your experience. Sometimes, the things I say might have come out a bit better. It’s one challenge to be timid, and another to be too forceful. Knowing how to fineness between both extremes will be so helpful. I would like to order your book as soon as it’s available.

    • Kristen

      Thank you, Terry! I’ve also veered between being too timid and too forceful, and been dissatisfied (at least) with the results. I’ll let you know as soon as the book is ready – won’t be long! ❤️


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